Self-Help doesn't help us, actually. Why? Because it treats us as if we're wrong. It shows us how to do something, assuming we're not doing it or not doing it enough. When an influence tells you how you should meditate, exercise, and get good sleep: it creates this underlying assumption that you don't already know this. Not that you don't know it, but that you aren't doing it good enough.
Often what moves us are not "shoulds" or "should nots," but plain facts. When someone is told they should go to bed early, it's annoying. When they read facts about how their memory, happiness, and well-being are severely damaged without quality sleep, it will probably move them to do something. And when you actually do the thing normally its not hard at all its like, obvious so you do it. thats it. What makes self-help stuff not help is that it creates an artificial desire to want more, be better, never stop, or in general just be afraid. Not natural fear that moves you to act, but a self-fulfilling prophecy of getting ready, get things done, and taskizing everything. more simply: the guru is just feeding into your self hatred and loathing, masking it as negative hard redpilled truth. they want you to feel sad and depressed, they don't want you to get better. they don't even do it consciously either thats why it works so well. they dont follow their own advice, they are literally lying to your face just to make money. they aren't creating a positive community either its just mentally damaged retards who are lonely and anti-social. successful people are actually likeable and aren't scammers, and the only way to understand that is by being around them. what you do by being around losers is consolidating that your a loser and that you can never escape. being with non scammers and people who simply do what they say and aren't just average is when you would start to become likable with motivation to be better. that takes like 5 seconds to realize but actualizing it is a long process that is entirely specific to your experience and personality.
It's a mode of being "not good enough." When you watch a video on how you should do something, it creates a sense of inadequacy, rather than inspiring genuine change.